About Dr. Ed Reitman
E. Edward Reitman, or “Dr. Ed”, as he is affectionately referred to by many of his patients, has been a practicing clinical psychologist for over 40 years. He has not only maintained a large, successful private practice, but is well known in Houston, Texas (the fourth largest city in the U.S.) As a media personality, he is frequently asked by the major network television stations to comment on the psychological implications and effects of current news events, both on the community and on individuals alike. Click here to read more...


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Recent article from 8/14/2014
What You Focus On Is What You Get
In an earlier article, I suggested that whenever you find yourself in a conflictual situation, the first person you should focus on is yourself. The purpose being to help you get to the heart of the problem. Too often, however, people in troubled relationships direct their energies and attention toward defending themselves and denigrating their partners. They argue about facts such as who said what, which day of the week it was, and whose account of the situation is most accurate. In every case, they forget what they don’t want to face and only remember what supports their beliefs. All of their statements are of the same ilk, in that they’re primarily designed to give credence to old opinions, positions and orientations. The problem is that clinging to old convictions precludes your ability to consider thoughts held by others, and mitigates objectivity. Even when you determine you’re RIGHT, you only win the battle. More often than not, you wind up losing the war. As a result, despite the fact that the original purpose of your argument or discussion may have been to bring about harmony and create feelings of love and compassion, you rarely achieve that goal. Why? Because dealing with facts doesn’t help you to create positive relationships. The way to do that is to deal with your emotions. Consequently, it becomes essential that you focus on discovering your own feelings and then find the courage to share them with everyone with whom you want to establish a healthy, loving relationship. That very act will not only enable your partner to know you better, but will provide a greater opportunity for each of you to relate intimately, with vulnerability and compassion. Click here to read the rest of the article
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